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A Lucky Day for Self Care 

Today is 7/7 – if you think 7 is a lucky number, you must be loving 7/7/17!

Today is the day for you to make a few lists that contain 7 things each. These lists belong to you – not to someone else in your family. Don’t “should on yourself” either. Only things you want to list, not those things you think you should write down.

Here we go –

  • List seven things that contribute to a great Life
  • List seven easy things you’d like to do today 
  • List seven of your favorite movies (this one is especially important to a future prompt)
  • List seven things you wish you had time or could make time to do 
  • Make up your own list of seven – whatever comes to mind 

Now, you decide whether you want to do one or more of those seven easy things you listed for today. Or you could watch one of your seven favorite movies or schedule something you want to make time to do.

But, we’re not quite done.

Next step is to go to this website.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Write yourself a short note reminding you about the summer of self care that prompted you to create these lists. You might want to jot down a few things  that are going on for you right now. Or what you hope you will be feeling or doing a year from now. Congratulate yourself for going beyond the 30 days of self care, if that’s your intention,  and making yourself a priority for an entire year.

Then set it to be delivered back to your email on 7/7/18.

This email a year from now will remind you of a few things:

  1. Self care is so important to you today you that are spending at least 30 days on it.
  2. Where are you in the list of things that contribute to your great life?
  3. What movie do you want to watch a year from now?
  4. What did you make time for that you really wished you could do?
  5. Maybe it’s time to bring a bit more self care back into your life.
  6. What else was important to you today?

I think writing letters to your future self is fun and illuminating. Feel free to use this resource any day you feel like it would be valuable to you.

Finally, for extra credit,come back to this post on 7/7/18 and comment on your experience.

 

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Now that we have taken a few moments to look at how and when to say no, today we will look at what makes you say, “HECK YES!!!”  Because taking a look at your Absolute Yes List helps you remember what to say no to.

When we say yes more often than we mean to, out of a sense of obligation or feeling coerced, we find ourselves doing things that carry resentment or even downright anger. And the anger isn’t usually directed solely at the person we said yes to. More often than not, our anger is felt internally – directed straight to our own heart – because we failed to say no. And that takes a toll on our ability to love ourselves and to express self care.

These tolerations subconsciously and consciously drain our energy, make us feel tense and sometimes even engage us in a conversation of self-blame and frustration. “Why can’t I just take the time to paint that floor?” Or “I will get to that soon or I will scream!!!” They block us from feeling good about what we have or bringing in new opportunities. If we have too much physical and mental clutter, we don’t have room to love ourselves and love the space we are in.

Sometimes we feel the heaviness of things that are happening around us. Or carrying tension in our neck and shoulders. We work at a desk and when things get hectic, we tense up without even realizing.

Self care is any act you incorporate in your moment or day or month or life that brings you joy, peace, well-being, healthy boundaries, a healthy body, a healthy sense of being – it’s anything you do for yourself, not for others or to make yourself better for someone else.

I’m going to be very transparent with you. We all have our quirks, right? So I’m going to be honest about one of mine.

When I am feeling really anxious or like things are out of control, I begin to hoard books. I do this in a couple of ways: I go to the library and check out two or three; I look at my own library of books and grab a few off the shelf, stacking them on my nightstand; or I pick up my tablet and start shopping for e-books and download a few.

But what it meant for me was getting my head in the game. Aligning my mind and my business goals with what I want to do, my vision, my why, my business philosophy. My values. Everything should be synced and pulling me forward.

My original hope of using these strategies to help clients was definitely realized. I use it when discussing team member roles, customer service, staying connected to mission, and creating a culture of empowered and respectful employees. These aren’t difficult lessons or strategies to implement – you can begin to put these ideas into practice while you are reading the book. And if you are working with a coach, it’s a way to marry the coaching and accountability piece with the tips and tactics you’re learning. I definitely introduce it to clients and invite them to bring the lessons into the coaching conversations.